Saturday May 26, 2012 at 4:06

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Anonymous asked: Lately me and my boyfriend have been getting better than it seems to have ever been in bed even though we have been having sex with each other for a little under a year, practice i guess, but my real question is I feel like i've been very close to 'exploding' but i just can't go all the way before i push myself away. I dont think i've ever had an orgasm before and Im guessing this is me getting close? I try to last as long as i can but i cant and force myself away. Any suggestions?

- Livvy

Good for you :)

Maybe tell him when you feel like you’re going to orgasm so that he knows to keep up the pace and help you stop from pushing away. Clasp your hands behind your head so that you can’t push him off you. Or if you’re feeling adventurous you could get him to tie you up… Don’t forget to have a safe word though!

Friday May 25, 2012 at 15:30

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Anonymous asked: Whenever I touch myself, I feel like I get really close to an orgasm but I always pull away when I am, I can't stop it and I was wondering if there were any tips on how to maybe not pull away? I've not had sex yet, as well.

- Livvy

It’s a tough question, because at the end of the day all you can do is just… not pull away. Try to keep relaxed but focussed. If you lose the sensation, but still feel unsatisfied, then just keep trying if you can. If you use a vibrator that may help as it keeps a steady rhythm.

Or, get someone to tie you up so you can’t pull away and then get them do it for you… :D

Thursday May 24, 2012 at 18:08

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Anonymous asked: I'm a girl who has a long term girlfriend. Anyway, our relationship has mostly consisted of me doing things to her and getting her off. A few months ago, she wanted to try doing things to me and i let her. The thing is is that she can never ever make me orgasm. I can make myself cum just fine with masturbation, but anything she does never does any good. She rubs my clit in the exact same way i do it, but it never feels too good. And fingering isn't too great either. What can i do?

- Livvy

Try mixing things up using blindfolds, handcuffs, etc to get you more aroused to start off with. Spend a long time working up to it. If it doesn’t feel good then keep on changing it until it does. Combine different types of stimulation, and invest in some sex toys or vibrators to help.

Thursday May 24, 2012 at 18:00

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Anonymous asked: I can't make my girlfriend orgasm, I mean, I've only ever fingered her, but should I be able to make her orgasm?

- Livvy

It will happen with time as you come to learn what each other like. It may not come until a long time into your relationship but it will come eventually.

Relax, communicate, practise.

Wednesday May 23, 2012 at 15:08

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Anonymous asked: is it normal for my legs and even my pelvis to shake when my boyfriend is going down on me? it makes me very embarrassed and i feel like its not normal...

- Livvy

Yup, normal.

Wednesday May 23, 2012 at 15:07

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Anonymous asked: As I was enjoying solo sexy time today, I was getting close to climax and all of a sudden it stopped [like always]. I didn't think anything of it, but when I looked at my sheets, there was a decent sized wet spot there. And why can I never climax?? Usually, I just pull away, but I didn't this time. I kept on going, but it went away :(

- Livvy

Sounds like you “squirted”. It’s the female equivalent of ejaculation (although obviously not the same stuff)! Not all women can do this and some guys find it to be a really big turn on. It’s basically just the natural lubricant your body produces coming out in one go instead of gradually. Unlike male ejaculation, it may or may not accompany orgasm.

It sounds like you are one of those people who takes a long time and really peaks and crests without actually orgasming. It may be down to nerves or the fact you are just focussing too hard on trying to orgasm. Basically, even after you lose the “wave”, keep going, the wave may come and go several times before you are able to orgasm but you’ll get there eventually.

Hope this helps, good luck!

Monday May 21, 2012 at 15:32

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Anonymous asked: whenever my boyfriend and i have sex doggy style i can never get off. but the thing is that the whole time it feels better than when we do it any other way. like to the point that sometimes i have to stop and just take his thrusts cuz it is just so asdkfjasdlks. but then I can never finish. sometimes i dont mind bc everything else was so great i dont really need that O but then he always feels bad the he gets off an i dont. is this normal, weird, is there something we can do to help me reach O?

- Livvy

It is perfectly fine/normal to feel satisfied from sex without having experienced orgasm. If you’ve enjoyed yourself then that’s the main thing.

I’m not really sure what you mean in the first part of your message. If you don’t enjoy doggy then just do another position, if you do enjoy it but can’t get off from it then why not just change positions to one you know gets you off when you feel that you’re getting closer to orgasm.

Combining different types of stimulation is the best way to help get closer to orgasm, e.g. rubbing your breasts, clit or wherever else gets you off most, at the same time as penetration.

Monday May 21, 2012 at 9:46

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Anonymous asked: Okay I'm just curious about something, I am a girl and a virgin but I've been eaten out and poked quite a few times, but Iv'e never been able to orgasm from anything other than masturbation? Is it possible to become so used to my own way of pleasure that I can't be pleasured fully by anyone else?

- Livvy

Can I just take a minute to appreciate the usage of the word “poked” haha? Brilliant.

Well I wouldn’t say it’s impossible, some women never experience orgasm with a partner so maybe you’re just one of those people. But the more “practice” you get, the more relaxed you are, the better you know each other and the more communication there is between you? The higher your chances. Remember to combine different types of stimulation as well. It’s true that only you know what you like best, but there’s no reason why you shouldn’t share that information with a partner.

Sunday May 20, 2012 at 17:15

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Anonymous asked: To the post about climax and pushing away: whenever I have an orgasm, my whole body twitches and if it's too intense I even start giggling. Like really hard giggling. My partner loves it though. He was scared at first because he don't know what we going on but now he's gotten used to it and thinks its actually awarding. He loves the fact that he can pleasure me to the point of where I can't handle it anymore.

- Livvy

This is amazing, thanks for sharing :)

Again, just shows that every woman is different and therefore responds differently.

That rush of hormones in your head, result in your overwhelming giggles… I think that’s so cute haha! I would definitely enjoy that in a female partner, I think.

Sunday May 20, 2012 at 17:13

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Anonymous asked: I see exactly what you are saying about girls pushing away when about to orgasm. The thing is maybe there is a difference of orgasms with someone and alone? i cant seem to get te same climax I do when I am alone.

- Livvy

Many women find this, and many women find the opposite. Just goes to show that everyone has different ways to get themselves off. Every person is different.

I definitely agree, many women feel that climaxing with a partner may have a very different outcome than climaxing alone.

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